Self-Compassion Series: Overcoming Self-Criticism
Ever catch yourself saying things like, "Ugh, I’m such a failure," or "Why can’t I just get it together?" That inner voice can be brutal! Self-criticism often feels like it’s keeping us in check, but honestly? It mostly just drains our energy and confidence. So, what if there was a kinder, more effective way to stay motivated?
Self-compassion can flip the script on negative self-talk. It doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook—it means encouraging yourself to keep going, with tearing yourself down.
Why Are We So Hard on Ourselves?
A lot of us grew up believing self-criticism was the secret sauce for success or to be able to handle hard things. But all it really does is make us feel small, ashamed, and stuck. The good news? Self-compassion helps you grow without tearing yourself down.
How to Shift from Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion
Notice Your Inner Voice: Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself. Would you speak to a friend this way? Probably not.
Reframe the Message: Swap harsh thoughts like, "I’m such a mess," with gentler ones like, "I’m doing the best I can, and that’s enough."
Practice Kindness: Picture how you’d support a friend in the same situation—and offer yourself that same care.
Why Self-Compassion Beats Self-Criticism
Research shows self-compassion helps lower stress, anxiety, and even perfectionism while building resilience. It’s about working with yourself, not against yourself.
Try These Small Steps to Build Self-Compassion:
Write yourself a letter of encouragement when you’re struggling.
Use affirmations like, "I’m human, and it’s okay to have tough days."
Place your hand on your heart during tough moments—small gestures matter.
Letting go of self-criticism doesn’t mean lowering your standards—it means growing with encouragement, not shame.
